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Amsterdam,
May 12, 2004 - There is probably not a single person more important to the in vention
and development of the solution-focused practice than Insoo Kim Berg. This
fragile American lady from Korean origin has a gigantic reputation. She is one
of the most important inspirators of nearly all of the solution-focused
consultants I know.
Together with her partner
Steve De Shazer, she developed solution-focused brief therapy. Currently, she
often travels the world doing consultancy and training people. Last year, she
did a workshop in our Dutch training program for consultants and coaches. This
year, I met her in an Amsterdam hotel and we had this conversation by the
fireplace.
You are an
important inspiration to many. Who are your main inspirators?
(laughing)... Oh gosh, I
don't know! What a hard question .... Don’t you have an easy question to start
off with?
(laughing)....ok,
sorry .... How about this one? When did you start inventing the solution-focused
way of doing therapy?
In the sixties, I was
doing therapy and I was very dissatisfied with the traditional therapy approach.
I realized: 'This doesn't work'. And that was quite something! Just must know, I
had a typical Asian girl background: very obedient. I was sent to
finishing high school in Korea, the type of school that teaches you to be a good
housewife. And my mother’s main mission had been to have me married into a nice
family. It was quite a revolution that a girl like me could do something like
that...be disobedient about how to do therapy.
I knew I had to be
disobedient quietly. I started reading a lot and I came across a text by
Jay Haley called
'The power tactics of Jesus Christ'. Can you imagine that? This was a shock! I
was shaken up. That was the beginning. That you could look at things like that!
Then, I read his book 'Uncommon Therapy'. And in the early seventies I started
to do things differently. And I really read a lot. For instance a book by Paul
Watzlawick of MRI, The Mental Research Institute, in Palo Alto in California.
Jay Haley, John Weakland and
Paul Watzlawick
worked there.
They did
strategic brief therapy didn't they? Sort of a predecessor of Solution-focused
brief therapy, wasn't it?
Right. They stated that
the attempted solution was the problem. They asked the question 'what maintains
the problem'? It was a very interesting approach. And it was an important step
forward compared to the really problem focused approach that had been dominant.
Shortly after that, I went out to study there. John Weakland, who was married to
a Chinese lady, became something of a mentor to me.
In this period, I also met
Steve, who was also working in California. At that time, he was experimenting
with a one-way screen. The therapist would do the session, and behind the
one-way screen, there was a team observing the session. Near the end of the
session, the therapist would go and discuss the session with the team behind the
one-way screen and then go back to the client and finish the session. And Steve
and I spend quite some hours together behind the screen.
(Laughs)... It was funny,
he used to say: 'You put a spell on me!' I convinced Steve to come back to
Milwaukee and there we moved in with each other.
I worked in a therapy
practice, and I did well. I worked very hard, and I accepted cases the other
therapists would rather not take. We introduced the one way screen. I did the
therapy, and behind the screen was a team watching. And I used it to teach
students about
therapy. And they loved it. Finally, they had a chance to watch therapy sessions.
But my colleagues did not like it at all. They were convinced we were doing
things that were unethical. There was quite a lot of pressure. At a certain
point, my colleagues even would look the other way when I met them in the
hallway. I now know, I made the mistake of talking too much about what we were
doing. That way it got too much attention. We should have just continued without
talking much about it. I decided to leave because of the pressure. And we
started our own practice. Because we hardly had any money, we started off in our
own living room.
It was a small house. We
did the session in the living room and there was a camera on the steps to tape
the session. Can you imagine? (laughs) The dining table was our office. After
some time, we saved some money and we could start rent a real office. And then
we started developing SFBT by trying things out and finding out what worked.
What was your
criterion? How did you notice that something worked?
Oh, you can easily see it.
When something worked, the clients started to smile, they got all energized.
They said things like: 'Yes!' or 'Oh, I never thought of it that way!' or 'What
an idea!'.
And we found out that if
something works with one person, it does not guarantee it will work with the
next one too. That is why you always have to work with what comes back to you.
The responses of the client will show you if what you said worked.
And how
important is non-verbal behavior?
It's important. It has to
fit with the rest of the behavior and the context. But it is important not to
isolate attention to non-verbal behavior. Most people emphasize non-verbal
behavior a lot. But if you focus too much on non-verbal behavior it can
interfere with the attention you have to have for your client. Mostly if you
focus your attention well on your client, your non-verbal behavior will
automatically fit.
Is the way
you apply solution focused working still evolving or renewing itself?
I certainly hope so....
What I am still trying to achieve is to simplify more what I am doing.
Steve always explains the importance of simplicity by referring to Occam's razor
(William of Occam, who lived around 1300, argued for the most simple theory
that could still explain the facts; quite unusual for his time -CV). I have
found that using scales is a very effective way of achieving this simplicity.
However, it would be wrong
to think that because it's simple it's also easy to do. People confuse simple
with easy. To be simple takes enormous discipline. Working solution-focused is
not easy at all, it is hard. First, there is the technique part. This, you can
learn. And then there is the art part. The art part is about what to do when.
That part is harder to learn.
Using
exceptions is an interesting part of the solution focus. Have you ever found
yourself not able to help the client find relevant exceptions to a problem?
Oh yes. It happens quite
often. For instance, I was talking to this lady and she was with a Church that
required her to pray all of the time. Now, she was convinced that an Evil Spirit
got into her body. And when she said: 'Sometimes I can get up and cook' I
thought: 'aha, there is an exception!' But she blocked it right off: 'O no,
yesterday I couldn't cook'. And then she said things like: 'Sometimes I go out
in the woods', or: 'I joined the health club'. And when I tried to talk about
these exceptions, she would not talk about it, she kept on blocking me off. What
did turn out to work well was that I said: 'You must have been overestimating
the power of the Evil Spirit'. She asked why. I explained: 'He has been trying
to get you down for many years now and he still has not succeeded.' That helped
her see things differently. And then I suggested an exercise with throwing a
coin every day. If one side came up she would have to completely ignore the Evil
Spirit, never mind what he said. If the other side came up, she should do what
she normally did. And in the following sessions she never talked about the evil
spirit anymore! In the first session that followed, she mentioned that she was
moving to another apartment. And in the next session, which turned out to be the
last, she mentioned that she had a boyfriend.
Interesting
case! I am curious about another case of yours. Last year you mentioned you were
going to work with native Americans?
Yes, that is still going
on. These Indians live in a beautiful environment and this is why many people
move there, mainly pro fessionals.
The Indians face two cultures. One the one side, there is their old culture, on
the other side, the new culture they're confronted with. Also the Indians now
have more money. They have casinos and don't have to pay taxes over their
earnings. So they have a lot more money. But many Indians feel as if they're
caught between two worlds.
The reason I am doing
sessions there is that there is a lot of violence in this community brought on
by excessive alcohol use. It is really special for them to let someone like me
in to help them. And it is a very interesting experience. I thought them and me
would have something in common. Indians were supposed to have Asian roots, you
know? But forget it. (laughs). For instance, during a session, they suddenly go
out in the lake and they are talking about the lake. And I am thinking: '
What's the connection?' (laughs). They have a lot to teach me!
Patience?
Yes, patience. Although
there is no recognizable progression, they keep showing up to my sessions. And
another thing I am learning is that they don't like direct compliments. It makes
them feel you put yourself above them. What does seem to work is when you say:
'I would like you to do more of this..'.
What makes
solution-focused working so interculturally applicable?
We value what the client
brings to the situation and work with that. Of course you can't totally leave
your ideas behind you. And you don't have to. It is like you have one foot in
the client’s world and the other in your own. And if a client says something
like 'My boss is a lunatic', I work with that but don't have to agree with it. I
don't care if the boss is a lunatic or not. I don't have an opinion about that.
Sometimes
when people start to notice how effective the solution focus is at helping
people faster and making them less dependent they can start to worry: 'Won't
that cost me money'?
This is a central dilemma,
and I don't have a clear-cut solution. We have had this ourselves. When we
experienced how fast clients were helped, we got financial worries about it too.
At a certain point, we even tried to prolong our therapies with two sessions for
that reason. And you know what? It did not work. Therapies became even shorter.
So, the problem is real. But in the long term, the more effective you are, the
better your reputation will become, which will lead to financial success.
Another thing is, despite
potential short term financial drawbacks, many people are attracted
solution-focused working because it helps clients to be effective so well. And
it is cost effective. To many solution-focused practitioners it is really
fulfilling to notice that your client is really helped. Organizations would
really benefit if more consultants would adopt the solution-focused
approach.
You're doing
consultancy yourself now?
Yes, nowadays, I don't do
much therapy. I do many trainings all over the world, and I am helping many
organizations. I do a lot of solution focused management training. For instance,
I train middle managers and team leaders. I help them manage their team members
in a solution-focused way. Sometimes, when we do role-plays, they are shocked.
For instance, we do a role-pla y
in which a manager talks to an employee who shows up late for work. And then I
say: 'You must have a good reason for being late. How can I help?' And then I
might say: 'What are some of your ideas about solving this problem?' So, by
doing this, I am being understanding, helpful, and at the same time I am making
my expectations clear. And I keep on asking that: 'What are your ideas about
solving this? And those middle managers are amazed and sometimes say: 'If you
keep on repeating that, the person will get upset!' But most of the time the
employee will not get upset. In fact, the clarity of stating your expectation
often helps.
And when they
do get upset?
Sometimes they do. For
instance, they may start to complain. And then I show understanding.
And then?
And then I move on to:
'And what are some of your ideas about how to solve this?’ (laughs)
(laughing)
You are tough! Sometimes people think that the solution focus is touchy-feely.
What do you think about that?
It is not. You are right:
I am tough. People might get that impression of touchy-feely because the way you
phrase your interventions softens so much. It is very helping and understanding.
But it is also very goal oriented. And it is not touchy-feely.
If you're working in an
organization, there will be a hierarchy. That is how an organization works.
There is top management who takes decisions and provides direction. And middle
management implements it. And if an employee is underperforming that is a
problem. You see, as a manager, you expect a performance of an employee. That is
the contract you have with him. But it is hardly ever necessary to be
authoritative. You get a far more productive conversation when you use those
solution-focused techniques I mentioned.
Any more
things you'd like to share?
There is also some
fantastic news about schools. Many alternative high schools, schools for
children with learning and behavioral problems, face severe problems, like
violence and drug use. There is one public school I am working with, in Austin
Texas, the
Garza Independence High School,
that does things differently. They have 400 students. They have never advertised.
All students volunteered to join the school. The teachers are called
facilitators. And the children are in charge of their own learning. They are
treated as responsible; they can come and go whenever they want. And, you can
guess what happens, they show responsibility. This school is now drawing
national attention. There are no metal detectors or other special safety
measures, and the school is save. The results are very good.
In another school for
special education, I am working with in Fort Lauderdale in Florida, teachers are
looking at classes as units. They work with goals for the week and use scales
for that. The teacher might say: 'My goal is for you to be a 6 at the end of the
week'. Every time the teacher notices progress he pays attentions and
compliments. Then they gradually moved into helping students set goals and use
scales them selves. By Friday, they review the results. In a special scheme the
student rates where he is now on the scale. And the teacher does the same. If
the goal was a 6 six and the teacher gives a score of 5, he will say something
like: 'Okay, you're at five, what is your plan?' This approach delivers good
results. For instance, disciplinary measures have gone down. And teachers are so
excited. They say things like ’We are making a difference in a student’s life'
And that is precisely why most of them became teachers in the first place. So,
they start to use it more and more.
It's
contagious!
It is! What you typically
see is that a school starts with the school counselor working solution-focused.
They then start to think: 'Hey, this might work for teachers too!'
I just came back from an
Institution in the north of The Netherlands, what was it called again?.......Jeugdzorg
Drenthe in Assen. They are doing some fantastic things. The director, Peter, is
trained in the solution-focus and the entire staff is now trained too. They are
not only applying it with the children, their clients, but also in the way they
run their organization. And they are doing fantastic things, very innovative.
And they are very enthusiastic.
We have to end the
interview. We leave the fireplace and Insoo walks me to the door and starts to
shiver and laugh: "Oh, it's cold. Why is it so cold? That's one thing solution
focused working does not work with!"
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Coert
Visser (coert.visser@planet.nl)
is a consultant, coach and trainer using the solution-focused approach to
organizational and individual change. This approach is focused on simply helping
individuals, teams and organizations to make progress in the direction of their
own choice. Coert wrote many articles and a few books.
More information:
www.m-cc.nl /
www.m-cc.nl/solutionfocusedchange.htm /
Dutch network /
Dutch blog,
http://solutionfocusedchange.blogspot.com
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